A young man’s Facebook status, jokingly asking friends for one dinar each so that he could get engaged to the girl of his dreams, led to an initiative to help young people get married. The initiative was dubbed “a dinar so that I can get married.”
The idea appealed to the friends of the young man who made the joke and the goal of the initiative became collecting one Jordanian dinar [$1.41] from each donor to help Jordanians aged 25 to 35 get married.
Yacoub Nizar al-Tamimi, who is in his 20s, was the young man who had the idea and started the initiative. He said that his dream and the dreams of many young people might come true as a result of the initiative, which he described as “kind.” The initiative’s program and right to be promoted were legally approved in collaboration with the Bader Development Association.
Tamimi said that his personal experience was the main driver behind the “joke” on his Facebook page. He wanted to break the saying, “One who lacks something cannot give it.” He said, “On the contrary, the one who lacks something is the most able to give, to show a need and to think of ways to turn a dream into reality.”
Facebook made launching the initiative easier because it allows a user to start a page and invite people to join it, and this is what happened. Tamimi, who is a graphic designer and developed the initiative, said that he was surprised how fast his page was accepted. More than 1,000 persons joined it overnight.
Tamimi said, “I was really amazed at the people’s response to the idea and the encouraging words that I read on the Facebook page's wall. Friends acknowledged it, supported it and then requested that the idea be circulated and turned into a national project to face the difficulties that are hindering young people from marrying, especially since we live in a society dominated by young people and the indicators of spinsterhood in our country are alarming.”
According to Tamimi, the dinar is a metaphor for what can be provided for such initiatives. In its work plan, the initiative requires the beneficiary to pay one dinar every year after marriage to stay in touch with the initiative and help others as well. He explained that donating and contributing to the enrichment of the campaign depended on the ability of donors to support Jordanian young people get married.
A funny situation has occurred that illustrates the interaction of people with the initiative. A woman in her 80s was one of the first donors. She said, “I want to donate one dinar to help one of the young people registered with you get married.”
According to Tamimi, the initiative requires its members to have Jordanian nationality, to be between 25 and 35 years old, and that the young man be engaged for more than a year.
To ensure seriousness and sustainability, the initiative requires the applicant to have a certificate of good conduct and a monthly income of no less than 350 Jordanian dinars [$495] — in other words, for him to have a steady job so that his future family be stable.
The initiative was launched and is headquartered in the capital, Amman. In the future, it will spread to Jordan’s other provinces. Tamimi said that the initiative was aimed at supporting those whose marriage had been obstructed by a lack of some amount of money or some demand. Tamimi pointed out that the support provided would not be in cash. The initiative will help the applicant in getting a bedroom or living room furniture set, or in providing the wedding suit and other such wedding-related matters.
The organizers hope that the initiative will help, every year, four to six young men. Tamimi said that the number could rise if the initiative got support from national institutions and individual initiatives that wanted to invest in realizing the dreams of young men and women to marry and have stability.
The initiative did not overlook the possibility that the marriages it supports might end up failing. It added a penalty clause to return the money to the initiative if the marriage fails within five years. The organizers believe that this clause will reduce divorce rates, which are on the rise among newly married couples.